Introverted Husband Refuses To Host Brother-In-Law In His Personal Den, Needs Space Before Becoming Father

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole. Posted by u/PSkatebo7 9 hours ago AITA For not wanting to give up my den for my gf's brother to sleep in on an impromptu visit to our city?
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    Font - So here's the scenario, my (M28) gf (F28) (let's call her Ann) and I live together and we're about to welcome our first child any day now. We live in a 2 bedroom house with a living room and a den space. Her mom has been staying with us for about a month now to help out around the house in these waning weeks as Ann becomes more and more pregnant and for a few weeks after baby boy is born. I work full time so she will need a hand and some help adjusting, while I'm away at work.
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    Font - So today when I got home from work, Ann let's me know her brother will be in town this weekend (tomorrow) and will need a place to stay Friday and Saturday night. She asks if it's okay if he can stay with us, I say sure and suggest that he can crash on the living room couch (very comfy btw). She briefly mentions how it's kind of awkward to sleep in someone's living room out in the open when people wake up at different times (?) I couldn't really relate/understand what she meant and I real
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    Font - The den is where I spend 85% of my free time at home. It's been a long week, I alternate between a normal work week, and a 6 day week every other week (this is a 6 day week). I'm a pretty introverted guy, I like spending time alone and I'm very aware that very soon I won't have nearly as much as alone time as I'd normally like, ever again.lol This very well could be our last weekend as a childless couple (he's not physically here yet), so I want to enjoy the little time I have left being
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    Font - AITA for not wanting to share my space (which admittedly isn't the tidiest right now) with her brother who randomly needs a place to stay for these next couple of nights?
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    Font - Edit: He is not coming to visit his sister and mother, he is here to hang out with a friend who lives here. We all spent time together when he was in town a few weekends ago for the baby shower. This is not a trip for him to visit family.
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    Font - ProfEmerita - 9 hr. ago Partassipant [1] 2 NTA. People who are not introverts have no idea how important it is for an introvert to have a quiet space to recharge. We already know that the OP'S MIL has been there for a month and will be there a few weeks more after the baby is born. So the OP has already been sharing the home space with a visitor.
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    Font - Hackoffrules 9 hr. ago Partassipant [3] "My den" YTA
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    Font - theassholethrowawa. 9 hr. ago © 2 NAH: she's not wrong for asking but I understand why you said no. You already have her mom there and now her brother is coming so it makes sense you don't want her family taking over your house. Like everyone who's calling you an AH it's two days so he can sleep on the couch for two days.
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    Font - robodoodle 9 hr. ago YTA it's one weekend. Can you hide in your bedroom? Maybe your wife wants to feel comforted by her family in the last weeks of her pregnancy. Instead of causing her stress and having to apologize for your reluctance to share why not just be cooperative?
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    Font - Routinzdfjhnfr. 8 hr. ago YTA!! you spend 85% of your down time in your room..alone?
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    Font - 86max86 - 9 hr. ago S Partassipant [3] YTA It's 2 days - he's not moving in. If you can't handle this kind of "intrusion" into your routine, you are in for a big shock when the baby arrives.

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